It’s the ponderance; it’s the finding purpose
It’s the rock bottom as well as being on the precipice
Abdicating from the cave of self-loathing to a field of love
It’s not wrong or right; It’s finding what’s right and learning
It’s finding that love; it’s finding that peace
Everyone in this world deserves to be happy. “Happiness is looked upon as a species of — by far the most important species of — well-being. Well-being is in its turn distinguished from welfare. Welfare is the set of states of affairs, mostly external to the subject but not necessarily so, which contribute to his well-being.” (Nordenfelt, L. (1994). Even still through all the sea of doubt, hatred, resentment, regret, and guilt, it can wash ashore. The place ashore is the island of, happiness, wholesomeness, loving, and warming to the soul. For who sees themselves as truly happy? If they do, it’s the examination of why. The answer to the why is what they see in themselves that way. It’s how they see themselves through the eye of self-worth.
Why does the negative come to light? “Negative emotions can be described as any feeling which causes you to be miserable and sad. These emotions make you dislike yourself and others, and reduce your confidence and self-esteem, and general life satisfaction.” (vic.gov.au) The negative comes into the light in a series of ways. It could be external or internal factors as well as the surroundings and situations. So many things can come in the way. It’s the power of those negative emotions. “The reason for this [negative thinking] is that negative events have a greater impact on our brains than positive ones. Psychologists refer to this as the negative bias (also called the negativity bias), and it can have a powerful effect on your behavior, your decisions, and even your relationships.” (Cherry, 2020). However, the lens needs to be changed. You need to see through the positive scope to internalize happiness.
The trick is self-acceptance and allowing yourself too to be happy. “You deserve to be happy because you are alive. Not in the classic, cliché sense but in a core, biological fashion. You were built to use happiness as a tool to evaluate the world that surrounds you.” (Priebe, 2021). You need to have yourself with you in this life; you need to love and be happy with yourself in this life. The need goes beyond the motions of it all. It’s not just the day-to-day. Simply put, it is being happy with yourself through it all and beyond.
You need to pursue it; you need to have the perseverance
You need to see the world through the positive lens
How you act; how you are in the moment and all the time
Finding you; seeing you
And what in this thing we call a world, who you need to be
Nordenfelt, L. (1994). Towards a Theory of Happiness: A Subjectivist Notion of Quality of Life. In: Nordenfelt, L. (eds) Concepts and Measurement of Quality of Life in Health Care. European Studies in Philosophy of Medicine 1, vol 47. Springer, Dordrecht. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-94-015-8344-2_3
Better Health Channel, negative emotions, https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/negative-emotions
Cherry, K (2020) What Is the Negativity Bias? verywellmind.com, https://www.verywellmind.com/negative-bias-4589618
Priebe, H (2021), Why You Deserve To Be Happy, Thought Catalog, https://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2014/12/why-you-deserve-to-be-happy/#:~:text=Happiness%20is%20at%20the%20core,is%20not%20useful%20to%20anyone.
